It Is What It Is

Sexual abuse, it is my fate


It is what it is, it is my fate.

Especially sexual abuse victims who have been abused over a longer period of time, develop a perception that the situation they were or are into can no longer be changed. Their cry for help has for too long not heard or been fully neglected. Because of this, they keep this limiting-belief that things are the way they are and that they cannot be changed.

Oftentimes, a sexual abuse victim is not a victim in one occasion. The abuse can stretch out over a number of years and done by multiple abusers. More than once victims find themselves trapped in a cycle of abusive relationships later in life. So they come to the belief that they are enslaved in a circle of fate they can’t escape. This acceptance of their ‘fate’ can turns into fatalism where the abuse victim believes that they have no longer control over their situation and life.

It is not always what you believe it is

It is not always what you believe it is

When an abuse victim end up being repeatedly in ‘wrong’ relationships she/he also develops a belief that they have no ability to make right decisions in life. This strengthens the conviction of the sexual abuse victim that things are as they are and cannot be changed.

In my own case, the abuse started at the age of 7. The wrong act went up through my puberty with more than one abuser. I started to accept these things as a given and a stroke of fate. I finally found a way to overcome this, but I know unfortunately enough, that many victims were not that fortunate.

This limiting-belief that life situations cannot be changed hinders sexual abuse victims to move on and to heal. If you can relate to this and feel that this limiting-belief: It is my fate, is hindering you from moving forward, please leave a comment below or write me a direct message.



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Jean DorffI am a survivor of sexual abuse but I am healed; healed from the sexual abuse. I sometimes wish that the scars of the abuse were gone too, but they also remind me that I was victorious in my battle, that I found my inner strength and that I can live a life on my terms. This life experience combined with my training as martial artist, dance instructor and coach, gave me the foundation to support others with similar experiences to instead of only survive after sexual abuse, to strive in life and move confidently forward.View all posts by Jean Dorff →

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